Things to keep in mind, for balance's sake:
You do not need to apologize for the path your own student is on. Non-ivies, community colleges, vocational programs, gap years, and working are all valuable experience for where your kid will end up.
Use other parents for inspiration and ideas to help guide your student, but don't get married to someone else's idea. It's a great way to hear about specific programs in schools that might not be heavily advertised; however, that doesn't mean your student will think it's as fabulous as you do.
Do your own research to supplement what you're hearing. Sometimes advice or information is imparted through an emotional filter. Recognize that, particularly if you're hearing about a teacher or a specific circumstance at a school.
It's good to talk to a good variety of other parents, rather than just one, even if the one is a very trusted friend. Just like you'd tell your kids...
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